The times they are a changing

Change is something that can scare a lot of people. Mariners in particular do, and for many reasons. A new client can mean new ways of messing up crew changes. A new master can mean trading the devil you know, for the bible thumping you don’t have anything better to do on Sundays now, you don’t know. A change in management can mean the boats are sold and here are your walking papers. In short, at boat companies often happens at a speed that rivals the weather.
Changes for me generally happen a lot slower. When it comes to work I like reliability, I like the comfortable feeling of the schedule and knowing the boat. I am slow to change in behavior and mannerisms too, and not to my credit. That being said I have needed to make a change, make that changes.
First off I need to be a more complete fiancé and partner to the wonderfully supportive therapist in my life. When I met her I was working a 28 and 14 schedule and didn’t think I would be much longer. Our relationship blossomed and I continued to say it wouldn’t be that much longer before I was working even time. That was me not being honest with her, and honestly, being a bullshitter. I like to talk about ideas, about plans, things I might want to do or try. It is a bad habit because it can end up causing me to lead her on about things, and she deserves better than that. 100% honesty, nothing else will do and that is a stone I am turning over. I really haven’t given her enough credit for deciding to be a part of my life, and committing to make it OUR life. She works full time, pays her own bills, and still keeps the house spotless. This all while sending me care packages, and always finding ways to let me know how much I mean to her. I can not say I have done enough in that department as well.
So after planning, and conversations with friend, and a great interview, I am making a really big change. One that is not just for us, but for me as well. Last week I left my job as Edison Chouest, and signed and offer and took a physical for Hornbeck Offshore. There are a few reasons behind this decision, however the primary and most important reason is the schedule. 28 days on and 28 off, the best part being is I didn’t have to get lucky, or beg to get it. It is a very exciting prospect for me. A lot more time at home with my therapist and our puppy, and a company that I think is going to be a better fit for me. The time at home is really what is important. I can not get any of that time on the boat back, and at the end of the day, the money just isn’t worth the time. The time that I need to make sure the therapist fiancé knows how much she means to me.
So different colored boats, new hats, 50% more time with the lady I love, and the time to bring you more pictures and posts from the region which this blog gets its name from.

The stereotypical sun rising on a new boat or beginning, blah blah!

The stereotypical sun rising on a new boat or beginning, blah blah!

About newenglandwaterman

1600 Master Near Coastal, Master of Towing Vessels, and a whole binder full of other pieces of paper. You can find me at the controls, hooked up and hard over, when I'm not at home playing with the dogs
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5 Responses to The times they are a changing

  1. towertodd says:

    Congrats on the changes!

  2. Jamie says:

    Congrats again, I look forward to hearing all about HOS.

  3. Thank you for working so hard and making sacrifices and changes for us. You are an amazing man and I am so proud of you. This Therapist is lucky to have a Sailor like you in her life. There are not enough words to explain the love we share nor are there words that do it justice . Everyone jokes that I will get sick of you being around more, but those people have never lived this type of lifestyle. My heart is where ever you are. I cannot wait for all the adventures that are in our future. Neither of us is perfect, but we will get through life together. We will grow up and grow old together. At the end of each day we will be each other’s safe harbor. I love you to infinity and beyond, infinity and beyond times!

    Xoxoxoxoxox

    PS- our Pup is going to be happy to have you around more!

  4. Tad Arnold says:

    Congratulations, Ben
    You’ve realized what I realized many years ago…your partner is the most important thing in your life.
    Maybe you’ll get over to Pensacola… HOS Achiever is here now. Keep us posted.

  5. JayNola says:

    I’ve been lurking here a while. Welcome to the club. Email me when you’re at the main office.

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